The Ambivalent Children –

• Are angry, defiant & can be violent.
• Will push affection away to keep control
• Are destructive both with their own belonging and others
• Are extremely difficult children to parent because they sabotage or destroy almost everything positive that happens to them.
• When they want something, they act very affectionate.
• Have few friends if any, although they will say they do, listing several acquaintances – keep friends only for a short time
• Lack the ability to give and receive love
• Lack empathy for others – often cruel to animals and other children.

The Anxious Children –

• Tend to be overly clingy, showing extreme separation anxiety when separated from their mothers.
• Incessantly chatters to control conversation
• Appear to be eager to please and are superficially compliant.
• Are often passive aggressive, constantly doing little things wrong, but never doing anything really bad, but frazzling the parents patience and control.
• Usually recover faster than those in the other categories

The Avoidance Children –

• Are often overlooked as they are very compliant, agreeable & superficially engaging,
• Lack depth to their emotions & functions – robotic like, not genuine or real in emotional engagement.
• Don’t enjoy being around others because they don't feel safe.
• Are Omnipotent – believing that they can care for all their own needs by themselves, and do not need others, especially their mothers.
• Are sullen and openly oppositional, but mostly in a passive aggressive way.

The Disorganized Children –

• Have highly disorganized behaviour and a bizarre showing a variety of symptoms.
• Hide anger deep inside, they are easier to deal with, harder to treat.
• May have atypical psychosis, bipolar disorder, and other neurological disorders.
• Often will have mental illness in the family history.
• Are excessively excitable (other RAD children are usually moody.)
• Are most difficult to treat in therapy because they have so many different problems and often require medication and out-of-home care.

•  Superficially charming and engaging, particularly around strangers or those who they feel they can manipulate
• Indiscriminate affection, often to strangers; but not affectionate on parent’s terms
• Problems making eye contact, except when angry or lying
• A severe need to control everything and everyone; worsens as the child gets older
• Hypervigilant
• Hyperactive, yet lazy in performing tasks
• Argumentative, often over silly or insignificant things
• Frequent tantrums or rage, often over trivial issues
  Demanding or clingy, often at inappropriate times
• Trouble understanding cause and effect
• Poor impulse control
• Lacks morals, values, and spiritual faith
• Little or no empathy; often have not developed a conscience
• Cruelty to animals
• Lying for no apparent reason
• False allegations of abuse
• Destructive to property or self
• Stealing
• Constant chatter; nonsense questions
• Abnormal speech patterns; uninterested in learning communication skills
• Developmental / Learning delays
• Fascination with fire, blood and gore, weapons, evil; will usually make the bad choice
• Problems with food; either hoarding it or refusing to eat
• Concerned with details, but ignoring the main issues
• Few or no long term friends; tend to be loners
• Attitude of entitlement and self-importance
• Sneaks things without permission even if he could have had them by asking
• Triangulation of adults; pitting one against the other
• A darkness behind the eyes when raging